Stephen: Oh, you’re just not meeting the right people.
Where you meet lots of different people in one night.
I spend half an hour setting up the room, putting café numbers on the tables, and writing out name badges.
Then the daters arrive, in ones and twos, slowly filling the bar.
If you both circle yes, you get each others’ contact information in an email the next day. Last week I went speed dating and I met two Australians who had only been in the country for five days, a soldier who finished his service in Afghanistan three days earlier, and a guy who works for Time Warner and was afraid I would hold that against him (I didn’t. Yet, they somehow all convinced each other that no one there was good enough for them.
I would never have looked twice at someone who was in the military when perusing dating sites, assuming we were too different. Bringing friends along might help you feel relaxed going into the speed dating event, but it could result in the pack mentality.