Online dating is a hit-or-miss and often a miss for men since there are more men here than women. Consider yourself lucky that happened fairly quickly and you were not entangled in such a situation for an unspecified time frame.
As for the second woman she clearly found someone she like more.
I feel as though I’ve put myself out there, but each time I’m unsuccessful. How you’re looking at these interactions could be part of your problem.
Put it this way, is it a failure if you ordered crappy nachos at a restaurant? Or would you say, “Hey, at least I tried this restaurant’s nachos but man, they sucked” and go about your day?
The second just never returned my texts and it seemed like we had a great time she was laughing and smiling and said she had a great time. Desperation can scare away women, even if you think you're hiding it well. Online dating is a shot in the dark, and requires patience, and the ability to handle rejection (Actually, that's just dating period) While your here though, express yourself ( but don't go overboard...), make a few new friends, and when the time is right, and the opportunity presents itself you may actually find what your looking for. Let me give you some insight: First lets address your post first though which I think is important for the follow up.
All of my experiences on online dating have failed so im not sure if anyone can give me some pointers on how to succeed on this online dating thing. Profile Review forum can help you clean up your profile a bit. Try not to get so hung up about being single and focus on all the fun stuff in your life. You have to accept what the first woman told you at face value and actually be glad she was honest about her emotional state.
Sometimes I feel like I’m too broken to even be considered by the universe to find love. Instead of telling yourself that you’re a failure, correct that narrative in your head and say that you just haven’t found the right person yet, which is totally okay and super normal.
I’ve never suffered any emotional or mental trauma that would provoke these thoughts, but I wonder if it’s self-preservation. You say that every time you put yourself out there you’ve been unsuccessful.
The first girl said she just got out of an engagement relationship and wasn't ready to date which im not sure I believe. However, hope isn't all lost, while it might seem like your getting nowhere, you might actually be getting closer.
One bad date after another pretty much convinces you that you’re fighting a losing battle and that the love you’ve believed in your whole life is actually a lie. The bad guys make it way harder to believe in the good ones.
So you’re four dates in with the same guy and things seem to be going great!
While I can totally understand all these valid concerns, I can say for a fact that online dating sometimes works out pretty well. Basically, my friends were all using a website meant for just “meeting people” and talked me into making an account.
I met my husband-to-be under platonic circumstances and we started talking.