When traveling with a feminine girl, it is usually more likely that we’ll get asked if we are sisters than lovers.However, if you are a butch lesbian, it’s a completely different story.Lesbian women face unique mental health issues — in addition to the ones all members of the LGBT community face — because they exist in a marginalized section of an already marginalized community.Exploring the effects of discrimination and prejudice only scratches the surface of their mental health challenges.Now after much research within the lesbian scenes throughout the world (it’s a tough job, but someone’s gotta do it!) I’ve playfully narrowed it down to 5 main categories of lesbian that are found on most scenes, from Brighton to Barcelona, Cardiff to California and Stockholm to Sydney. Now describing someone as a butch lesbian doesn’t mean they’re mannish, that’s a common misconception.They just don’t seem to exist “in the wild.” But entering “The Scene” can be pretty daunting too, so what’s a girl to do?When I first came out I thought the hard part was over, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. The gay scene has so many sub-categories in most cities, and although I hate categorisation, stereotyping is very different.
These identity and labeling issues cause stress and contribute to the social isolation lesbian women deal with.I remember there was one very boyish girl who liked me a lot, and she was so aggressive that it was too much for me.I experimented with women a lot during that time, but that was when I was in my drug phase, so I don't really count it.(Again, I’ll give you a minute to have a think about that.) Essentially, sometimes the person you’re trying to present to the world doesn’t quite translate, and there is no exception when it comes to the bisexual and lesbian community. Personally, I get offended if I get called a lipstick lesbian, as I’ve been trying really hard not to look straight so that I can fit in with “My People,” but equally I don’t know if I could pick a category that I’d feel happy to be stuck in.I thought the term “Dyke” was offensive when I first entered gay-land, but apparently it’s the lady-lover’s “N Word.” Now I’m Out, I’m in, and it’s common to playfully call your friends dykes without being punched square in the face.I’ve added an LGBT column for the website to make the site more inclusive and talk about issues that affect some members of our travel community. Instead, it usually results in a number of questions where I feel like I’m the ambassador of all things lesbian — scissoring, dildos, and why some women choose an androgynous look – to a group of strangers I just met.