No one should ever be embarrassed about their sexual history — whether they have had many partners, just a few partners, or none at all.
When you enter a relationship, it is pretty common for you and your partner to have differing levels of experience — and, ideally, it should never be a source of shame or low self-esteem.
This is impacting your perception of the world to view yourself through a prism in which you are “cursed”, “scared”, “rejected” and afraid all in one paragraph.
So let’s shake you out of this funk and set your record straight.
For each pair, everything about the person in the sketches was identical (e.g., age, interests, hometown), except that in one version, they were described as having been in at least one romantic relationship in the past, and in the other, they were described as having had no experiences in romantic relationships.
But if she won’t go out with me, how can I be myself? Dear Alex, Your crisis isn’t an identity crisis or dating crisis; it’s a confidence and perception crisis.
Your sample size of experience is so small that you’ve turned every tiny setback into a disproportionately large failure.
So, you've met the girl or guy of your dreams, and one of you got up the nerve to make it official. Now, there's just one problem: this new SO feels light-years ahead of you when it comes to experience, and your heart’s racing at the possibilities. Whether you're a relationship newbie or a sexual novice, there's nothing to fear.
What will this mismatch mean for your relationship? Here's what you can expect upon entering your new relationship, straight from the lips of those who've been there, done that.