He really believed that there was less than a 1% chance that I’d have an incontinence issue, and a 30% chance of impotence. I mean, here were all the big guns in town, and his numbers seemed like the best. And the feedback was, “He’s got great hands.” We knew that his bedside manner left a lot to be desired, but I thought, “Who needs bedside manner?
Even though Valentine’s Day has passed, I thought I would address an issue a very dear patient of mine recently raised; how do you date and meet someone new when you have incontinence?
He then said the only option was surgery where some kind of mesh was fitted; but said \"because of her age it wasn't an option as she may want children in the future\" (She wan;t asked anyway).
For much of that time, he felt ill-served by the medical community. The biggest fear, of course, is that it might be life-threatening. She’s a very strong and good person, and she remained at my side every moment of the time. We had a meeting with a radiation oncologist at a major teaching hospital.So then it was a question of who was going to perform the surgery. If you were in your 70s, it might be a different story.” They all explained that I might develop impotence or incontinence afterward.One reason that I finally chose the surgeon I did was because the complication rates he quoted were lower than the others’.Here was a man who was a radiation oncologist, who was saying, “Maybe you should have surgery.” So even though I had talked to other people, I think that was really the convincing moment.My wife and I were looking for a cure, and all of the information we were getting was that, given my set of circumstances, surgery was best. And all the information I was getting was, “Get this thing out of you.” Another factor was that I was young enough that people were saying, “Look, you’ve got a long life to live.My daughter is 19 and seemed to have suffered from several urine type/kidney infections for several years.