But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.
We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.
People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.
This is one of life’s big mysteries but sometimes I think the key is identifying the right places to look. When you’re over 40, you’re usually pretty comfortable in your own skin You know what you like, and what you don’t.
Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.
If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks?
I tell each one the same exact thing: “If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.
For those of you in your 40s or 50s who are recently divorced, widowed, or just eager to re-partner, dating again can be daunting. As two independent people with separate lives, you are probably more capable than your younger counterparts to nurture the three entities needed for a healthy partnership; “I,” “You,” and “We.” With enhanced self-awareness and father/mother-time on your side, there is a greater likelihood that you will make better choices, avoid previous destructive patterns, and build more lasting relationships. History has a way of repeating itself unless you mindfully replace your old dependencies and fears with new patterns of behavior. Your priorities are in order and you know the benefits of being real. Post-Divorce Healing and Rediscovering Your SELF,” Deborah Hecker, Ph. is a psychotherapist with over 35 years of private practice experience. In addition, she is certified as a psychoanalyst and has extensive training in the following areas: addiction counseling, grief counseling, collaborative practice and mediation.
So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.
(Guys, if you’re reading this…get in touch if you want to share!